BEING NICE IS NOT KIND
  
“Be friendly, not friends” is a core tenet of property management.
This excerpt from Steven Bartlett’s podcast explains the difference between a nice person and a kind person.
Nice is about people pleasing and hiding behind a facade: “I can’t tell them the truth; it wouldn’t be nice.”
Kind is about connecting to people and choosing transparency: “I care about you enough to tell you the truth.”
Success is not defined by pleasing people - that’s impossible. Success is rooted in kindness.
YOU CNUT CONTROL THE TIDE
King Cnut (aka Canute) was teaching humility, not promoting his hubris.
The only thing you can control is your attitude and actions.
Harv Eker used the TFAR formula: Thoughts + Feelings + Actions = Results.
Bad thoughts lead to bad feelings lead to bad actions lead to bad results.
Good thoughts lead to good feelings lead to good actions lead to good results.
Why do we try so hard to control things over which we have no control over?
Work with the tide instead.
LIFE IS ABOUT CADENCE
Ever wonder where the concept of work-life balance came from?
In 1817, a Welsh labor activist Robert Owen wanted to create balance by dividing the day into 8 hours of work, 8 hours of discretionary time, and 8 hours of sleep.
Then it re-emerged in the 1970s during the Women’s Liberation Movement and we’ve been trying to balance work-life ever since.
The error in this logic is that life is designed to ebb and flow, like a sine wave or a heart beat.
If you try to flatline nature's rhythm, you're nullifying your drive, your energy, your vitality.
Karl Martin points out that you don’t get balance by trying to be balanced.
Life is, more appropriately, a cadence.
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